Often when working with people I hear, “I guess I need to forgive …”.  This may surprise you, but forgiveness is not necessary to heal from significant trauma, nor is it a requirement for moving forward with your life. Some believe that there are things only a higher power can forgive. Others, including many therapists, … Read more

Narcissism is a term that is often used in a casual way to refer to someone who is self-centered and challenging. Psychological experts tell you to minimize contact with someone who is narcissistic, but what do you do when that is not possible? What do you do when it is your sibling? What do you … Read more

What do people hope to gain (or lose) when they seek out therapy? That’s a great question! Seeking psychotherapy and psychological counselling is a significant first step. The decision is usually based on wanting something different or better. It is hard work to look at yourself and your life, and only you can decide if … Read more

Say all the things! What do I mean? Say all the things! When working with clients I use this phrase often, particularly when at a pivotal moment. When life is about to change in some way that is irrevocable and permanent. Be Your True Authentic Self There are times in one’s life when you need … Read more

I used to think that saying,“I’m so sorry for your loss” when someone died was the worst possible thing to say. It was like stating the obvious… as if I wouldn’t be standing in a line at a funeral home if I wasn’t sorry. Recently I have learned that some of the things said to … Read more